Choices

One of the criticisms often levelled at bisexuals from some other groups within the LGBT+ community concerns choice. It’s the same argument often put forward by religious conservatives, among others. The argument goes that bisexuals can choose whether to be gay/lesbian or straight. Those critics within the LGBT+ community insist that we’re playing, or that we’re afraid to fully come out of the closet. Those on the other side of the fence think our very existence is proof that they were right all along, and that homosexuality is an avoidable “sin”.

“The only choice is between self-liberation and self-oppression.”

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Internalised Fear of Anal Sex

“Right, we need to talk about anal sex,” she said, looking very uncomfortable. There were a few giggles that went unacknowledged. “It’s dangerous. That… area… is designed for things to come out of, not go into. It’s also dirty.”

Incongruously, the smell of fresh baking drifted on the air. This was, after all, the cookery department.

Her face was already red, so she simply added, “Up until quite recently it was also illegal.”

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Shared Post: Biphobia in Fiction

Using specific examples from YA fiction, this post deals with a lot of the stereotypes around fictional bisexual characters and why they’re not OK to perpetuate.

Welcome back to another Trope Tuesday! This is a weekly meme hosted by A.J. @ Lacy Literacy where we discuss a specific trope and decide: yes, indifferent, or throw it off a cliff? Today I’m going to be talking about something near and dear to my heart: biphobia in YA. (TW: biphobia, slut-shaming, brief discussion […]

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Shared Post: Bi-Erasure and the Patriarchy

This is an interesting blog post that raises some important questions about how bisexuality is viewed by society, and some of the reasons that the author thinks could be to blame.

I have always questioned my sexual identity. I remember being in primary school, ten years old and feeling awkward over having crushes on girls. I always thought that there must be something wrong with me and that I must be some sort of pervert. Coming into my teen years I continued having feelings for girls […]

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“You’re  gay,” she said. “Just admit that you’re gay! I’d be happy. I’ve always wanted to have a gay best friend!”

The summer sun was drifting low in the sky, there was a smell of freshly cut grass, and she had a new boyfriend. Maybe that made her more enthusiastic than usual to define my sexuality. But it wasn’t the first time we’d had this conversation. My response was the same as it had always been.

“But I’m not gay,” I said. “If I was gay, I’d say so. I’m not homophobic, I wouldn’t be ashamed, I’d tell you if I was gay.”

What I didn’t say, what I could never say, was I’m straight.

“At the age of 35, it was like a light finally being switched on.”

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